Simplifying Holiday Traditions for a Joyful Season

The holidays are fast approaching and I just wanted to check in to see how everyone is doing. I have turned off the news and am starting to get ideas for gifts. My goal is to keep up with the handcrafting and buying from places like Etsy, to get away from the Amazon site. Those little entrepreneurial souls out there need our help. There are beautiful jewelry and wood items that catch my eye. It fits my concept of mindful buying and giving with meaning. I know big retailers must make money as well to support the workers, but showing a little love for the small companies will make a difference to the owners and their families. Also, the craft shows are fun to explore for unique gifts.

As for the big family events, keep it simple. No devices or politics at the table. Invite one person who doesn’t have any family near them. Make cooking easy. Since it is only the two of us, it will be a small turkey and homemade sides for Thanksgiving. Our kiddo will be home at Christmas, so I am thinking ham, potatoes au gratin and greens for the Christmas feast. Decorating the tree is a tradition for all of us in the two weeks before Christmas, with our “fake tree” and eclectic ornaments. We will also be building the new addition to the Lego Village! (Santa’s post office and postal truck this year. Shout out to Lego!) Now this is my kind of holiday!

So try something new. Reduce the stress. Keep it simple. Give to the various Colorado Gives campaigns, donate new toys for those in need, make cookies or bread for the place you frequent the most (Louisville Rec Center for me), give handcrafted gifts, and donate your time to anyone who needs a hug. Love to you all at this time of year!

Embrace Your Path: Lessons from My Personal Journey

In 2012, I wrote and published a book called “Discover the Life You Want to Live.” (It is still available for purchase on Amazon.com if you are interested). Although it needs editing and updating, my message is still relevant to today’s challenging times. I called the book a Standard Operating Procedures Manual for Adult Mentors. I asked readers to engage in a discovery process to understand the life they wanted to live. I talked about my life and legacy and what I wanted to pass onto my child.

One message that I want to reiterate from the book is this line of thought:

Throughout my life, I have tried to have the attitude that we are all equal and everyone is at the place where they need to be at any given moment in their lives. If we constantly compare ourselves to those who are more successful, more glamorous, or more part of the popular crowd, we lose sight of why we are here on this planet. It should not be a contest. If I look around, I can see others better off than I am at any point in my life. They do not owe me anything. I do the best that I can with the life I have been given. I work one task at a time and make the best of that given moment. We are all in control of our own thoughts and our decisions lead us to our destinies. We are who we are, and we will get to where we need to be when the time comes. It may be a harder road than others, but we must own that path.

So, for today:

JUST BREATHE! Take a walk. Learn one new thing each day. Engage with one new person each day. And, keep writing!

New Age Meets Modern-Day Preppers – The World is Changing

New Age: People seeking to cultivate a more peaceful way of living and an elevated conscious experience. These folks also believe in a New Age of heightened spiritual consciousness, international peace, and an end to racism, poverty, sickness, hunger, and war.

When I was young and finally on my own, I embraced the “New Age” Movement. I focused on how I would improve myself in other ways than just believing in something outside and intangible. I admit I bought into the hype of products for a while. My love of rocks had me purchasing so many crystals that my house is full of them. It also took me to so many classes taught by the various self-proclaimed shamans and gurus. I loved the messages and tried to live my life a little better than my co-workers and friends. I wanted to try and pass on the message of the New Age theology to others in hopes of creating a better world in which we live. I liked the idea of inclusivity and acceptance of all personal perspectives on the divine being equally valid.

I recently read an article in the November Costco Magazine about a guy who is trying to do the same things I am doing, speaking to others with A Thankful Heart.” The article featured writer/motivational speaker David George Brooke. Although I practice the positive self-talk and journal most days, I want to work on the more “doing” side of things.

Recently, it has been the “I got mine, and to hell with you!” mentality, and I despair of that Prepper/Survivor mentality. Sure, we are all preppers in a way when we bulk buy at the local Costco, and we want our family to survive any catastrophe. But it is also a good thing to give half of your purchases to those in need. That is where the New Age teachings come into play. Something good can come out of every disaster.

If you are interested in my perspective on the “Worst Case Scenario,” see the post with this title from February 2, 2021: https://drutieben.com/2021/02/02/worst-case-scenario/

It is a pandemic rant about what could happen in the future. It was a little long, and a little negative, but I was going through what everyone else was – experiencing trauma. While I am still working on the grand conclusion of the Caitlin Ferguson Mysteries, Book III (hopefully published this year!) this blog still rings true of what we are experiencing right now (well, not the lock-in, but you know what I mean).

So be prepared, but with caution. Do not buy into the media hype about what you need to survive. Wake up! Get involved with your community and help those in need. I will constantly be repeating this in future blog posts. Be kind to yourself as well as other people. Tell others how grateful you are to have them in your life. And let me know what you have been doing of late to better yourself and others. Thanks!

Stay Positive: Community Support Ideas During Winter

Some of us are spiraling out of control with our fears of what the future holds. I would like you to just try to focus on today. Are you and your family safe right now? Right now, are you warm and fed?

If you want to venture out into this crazy snowstorm to help others, please do so. Ease your mind right now. Link up with the Denver Rescue Mission or your local version of a soup kitchen. Volunteer to feed people. Gather up your old sleeping bags, blankets, and used coats. Put them in your car and take them to the nearest shelter for those in need.

Shout out to your local municipality and ask: “How are we doing? How are we going to get through today and the next day? What can I do right now to help locally and globally?

If we sit at home and get more depressed, we won’t get through the winter. Keep doing your job to the best of your ability and make one person smile each day.

Get out to your local Senior Center and have lunch with those folks! Talk to them and make their day! (Just remember that most places would like you to call for a reservation and a small donation. So, call in advance.)

I’m donating on the Colorado Gives site: https://www.coloradogives.org/

As of today, there are 4,220 organizations listed on this site. I don’t have the funds to give millions (like some of our illustrious billionaires should be doing). But, I give a little to my favorite charities. Even if it is $25.00, $50.00, or even $100.00 that will help all those in need. It will ease your mind that you are doing something! And, of course, it’s a tax write-off!

I’m also knitting scarves like a madwoman to give away, and am stocking up for the holidays. I am keeping busy, trying to keep my family safe, and household in order. So let’s all do one thing each day to help another today. Let me know your ideas!

365 Days of Kindness: A Survival Plan for the Next Four Years

So, America decided. I spent a day grieving then fabricated a plan on how to cope. I will not stand by or continue the rhetoric of the new hate-filled world of the incoming administration. We will all suffer, but we must STRIVE to be that positive person people want to be around.

I produced my own plan on how to survive these next four years. Each day I will bring joy to those I both know and don’t know through words and small actions. I’m calling it the 365-day Kindness Calendar. It is my hope to post words of encouragement and commit to one act of kindness a day over the next 4 years. It might be as simple as answering a text for those in need stating, “Hang in There!” It could be as simple as paying it forward in a store or a restaurant. Or giving to your local food banks such as: Community Food Share in Louisville, CO  https://communityfoodshare.org EFAA in Boulder, CO  https://www.efaa.org/

Or, just saying thank you to those we forget about who are just doing their jobs. Or, listening and encouraging a friend in need with your positive feedback. Or, making a joyful noise with the Senior Choir to those in Memory Care.

These acts do not have to be dramatic and life changing. They just need to be small and meaningful to those who are and will be struggling in the future. We must believe in each other once again. We must continue to educate ourselves in history and civics to understand our past and plan for our future. We can choose to read uplifting books and watch movies that can make blockbuster change!

Yes, I am sad that the nation went this way and let their fears of the future guide their votes. But I know we can get through it without becoming those negative people older Americans and youngsters exemplify. Staying positive is the only way to survive.

We cannot change all the negative and hurtful feelings in others, but we can still strive to be that shining light.

I encourage all of you to be a part of my new movement, making the first act to be kind to each other and stop the negative talk. Make this holiday season merrier and continue to strive for positivity in the new year. Tell your family and friends you love them and journal your thoughts, either in a notebook or aloud on your posts. I love you all and thank you for listening!

Thought for Today

When did people stop listening to each other?

What do you do when someone stops you in mid-sentence, dismisses anything you say as Fake News and immediately start espousing their beliefs that they heard through their friends? When you try to tell them how thoroughly you have researched your topic you are speaking about, they say they don’t want to talk about it and then continue to talk over you, attacking you for what you know because it doesn’t fit with their beliefs? Also, why do others want you to believe what they believe? Are they afraid of looking within themselves and finding out that they are wrong and do not want to open their minds to reality? Why do others have the right to say what is right for all others, and especially women?

Everyone has the right to have opinions, but opinions based on lies and male-dominated religious beliefs and classic 1950s sitcoms should not affect everyone else. Whether we have a law passed or not, whether others’ religion puts down women, should not be the basis to oppress all women and put us back into the past. Stop being silly!

GRADUATION 2023 – YOU MADE IT!

This is the beginning of a new era. Your high school graduation has arrived. You have had an amazing journey since the beginning. Your education journey took you from Pre-School, which was: Twoodles, Building Blocks and Stepping Stones, and onto Coal Creek Elementary, Louisville Middle School and finally to Monarch High School (MOHI) and the adventure was worthwhile.

COVID, insurrection, devastating weather and fires, and threat of war were all obstacles you had to overcome, and yet you persevered. The learning process has filled you with hope for a better future, and the desire to make the world a better place.

You met a multitude of fantastic people and teachers along the way, with Legos galore, Robotics, TSA competitions, and a fantastic trip with the band and choir to New York City on Spring Break! Your learning excelled, creating who you are today, a person prepared for higher learning. Marching band competitions created a sense of belonging to something bigger than an electronic world. My gift to you is communications skills. You can communicate with anyone, any age, any size, any race and any gender, and your ability to maintain multiple different and dynamic groups of friends. Your Dad’s gift to you is your ability to understand the inner workings and processes of a computer. Lifetime friendships will remain in the future for you. College will help you continue to grow, and you will make another group of friends, while holding the ones you already have close to you and in your heart forever.

With “Buzz Lightyear” on your side, you are ready to advance to “Infinity and Beyond.” You will achieve greatness once you apply yourself to your finest endeavor. You will fight the good fight and win the battles that are important. And all the while we will stand by you and support you.

Seniors, you all went through heartbreak and tragedy these past few years and still excelled, despite all the tragedy – it was more than us parents went through in our entire lives.

Be grateful for a world that embraces you and allows you to change things that need changing.

Love your parents and family no matter what happens in the future.

Love your life and reach out to others who need your help and embrace them.

“Learn as if you will live forever, live like you will die tomorrow.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“Success usually comes to those who are too busy looking for it.” – Henry David Thoreau

“Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.” – Carl Sagan

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” – Nelson Mandela

AND…. “Overthrow selfishness and replace it with kindness.” – Dru Tieben

AN IT HARM NONE – MOVING FORWARD

Dear Graduating Seniors:

There was a golden rule centuries before religious conquest and political dogma took over the world. Simply put, the Rede stated: “An it harm none, do what ye will.” This thought helped create an ancient mythology that those who lived close to the land didn’t harm the people or their surroundings because they knew what was needed to survive. The community cooperated and created an environment where everyone contributed and reaped the same rewards. Our ancient ancestors were smarter than what we believe of them. Sure, they didn’t have electronic communication, but somehow, they communicated with each other, got along, and survived, at least until the next hoard came along to take over. I would like to believe that they didn’t destroy everything for simple political gain and support to be re-elected. I would like to believe they were more accepting of each other and didn’t try to stop conversations because another tribe believed something different. Of course, there were wars for territory and property, just as it is currently, but once the dust settled, perhaps our ancestors listened to each other a little more and adapted innovative ideas that helped them survive. Perhaps the conquerors worked in harmony with the conquered and created a better society as a whole and accepted each other.

However, when the ruling class kept the spoils for themselves and enslaved others, classism began, and the ruling class engaged in both physical and mental wars to lord over the peasants, using thoughts and religious fervor as weapons. The psychological divide and conquer games became the new normal, and the world changed. There were no common goals. No one was safe. Ultimate power over others at the expense of life became the new normal. Money was the new religion. New regimes convinced people that ruling class ideas were much better and were the correct way of thinking, at the expense of free thought. Oppression became yet another new normal. People began to isolate in their communities, convincing themselves that they were staying out of it, and lived their lives in  a bubble, ignoring the next onslaught, sometimes at a great price. Civilizations shrank and grew, depending on the conquerors, and no one listened to each other. Fear dominated the world. No one spoke up or fought back, pretending that this was what was expected of them.

Today, the cycle has returned to divide and conquer. Those who have the most power and resources want to keep them at the expense of both the land and the people who make up the rest of the population. It is more important to be a powerful multi-billion-dollar corporation at the expense of everything else. Wordplay to get increasing media exposure is now vital for the ruling class to get people listening which will sway all others towards their belief systems. People are listening, but they are not responding. And, if they do respond, it is in anger, causing others to spiral downward into anger and depression. A vast majority feel that there is nothing they can do to make the world a better place.

Dissemination of misinformation has ruled the world, and the people with the most money and power are currently reigning supreme, having conveyed so many conspiracy theories as factual. The general population accepts these ridiculous ideas, because deep down there is something inside them that makes them afraid of the truth. Deep down, people know that they need to research for the facts in a context that is not biased. Unfortunately, good research takes time and thought so many will not always make the right choices. People want to believe what is told to them because the truth makes them uncomfortable. Physical and mental violence are becoming an accepted practice. If someone doesn’t want to have a dialogue that might change their minds, they get angry and lash out. Everyone is angry at each other all the time and it is exhausting! Discourse has left the playing field. No one is listening to diverse point of views without getting angry. Everyone is taking a side and not coming to any compromise. There is no middle ground. Uncomfortable conversations have become the quest to make changes in the world.

However, having said all of that, I acknowledge that there are so many injustices that have happened in our generation, but that does not mean we can’t move forward. My advice to all of you is simply this: 

Don’t disseminate misinformation even if you think it is a joke and your generation finds the humor in it. A vast majority of people want to believe in conspiracy theories. People will believe anything when they are afraid of change. Know in your hearts that these conspiracy theories on the internet aren’t real. Know that:

Birds are real.

Climate change is real.

Changes within an organization is real and can happen.

Respect is real and everyone should strive to gain it from each other.

Dissemination of hate is real and is a crime.

Replacement Theory is not real!

Further advice to you as upcoming responsible adults:

We all need to take personal responsibility for our actions and strive for goodness, not hate. Don’t hurt others in both thoughts and actions. Those who hurt others with their voices need to look inside and see why they do what they do and why it is important to them to point out others’ frailties and faults. Listening is a hard life skill to learn, but it will be the best tool in your toolbox. Go out there and make a difference. Make everyone’s life, including yours, a little better each day. You have an exceptionally large burden on your shoulders to make changes that will affect everyone’s futures. Reach deep into your hearts and go out in the world and make it better. Don’t blame the elders, just shake off any old hurts and slights and become a better elder. With higher learning and working to uncorrupt the system from within its very walls, you will help us all survive for another millennia. Remember that your parents may not always agree with you or your friends, but they do have a few answers for you if you ask them. You can believe in them if they are on a right and just path. They really do believe in you and will support you no matter how weird you think they are in their behaviors, thoughts, and actions. Be the calm person in the dialogue and just listen.

So, get going Seniors! Make things happen. Make changes. Remember the basics you’ve learned throughout your lifetime. Be kind, be beautiful, be fair, don’t spread mean rumors, and pick up the trash! (Don’t send photos of what you found on the ground in disgust of what others left behind. Just pick it up no matter who did it.) Have the respect to make your life and your neighborhood a beautiful place to live.

Congratulations Class of 2022!

THIRTY-SEVEN PAIRS OF SOCKS – In Search of Perfection

I gathered up my slightly used winter clothing, shoes, socks, and other paraphernalia, packed it all up and took it to the ARC Thrift Store. After having been turned down by the stores giving away items for the Marshall Fire because they were overwhelmed with new clothing donations, they turned me away. They did not want any used stuff. It was nice to know how generous people were to help the victims, but I felt a little rejected. Therefore, I went back to ARC, where I always go, to help in the way that I could.

I made a list of what I had to donate. I had filled two large plastic storage containers by the time I completed my task, sorting through everything. There were coats, shoes, purses, women’s business clothing, and finally two grocery bags filled with thirty-seven (37) pairs of socks that I had recently collected. 37 pairs…. I began to wonder why I had so many socks. My sock drawer had turned into two overflowing sock drawers. Therefore, I knew it was time to purge. I sorted the socks out and identified what I really needed to keep. I threw away the ones that had seen better days or was missing a mate, disappearing into the dryer dimension, never to be seen again. In the end, I produced 37 pairs to give away. It made me think about my shopping habits and continued search for the most comfortable and perfect sock.

I posed these questions: Why do I continue to buy? Am I hoping my purchases will help me achieve perfection? While some people might have an endless pursuit for the perfect bag, or the perfect pair of shoes, my search continues to be one of comfort for my poor feet. Years of abuse such as cramming feet into poorly designed shoes and ever poorer designed socks have wreaked havoc on them. Age has determined my fate. I am forever searching for that perfect fit and creature comfort – no pinched toes in shoes (wide sizes only!) and no ridged seams in socks (brands that are soft and seamless!). This makes me wonder why production of these ill-fitting items has not changed. Why do we as consumers continue to buy them? Why don’t we complain to the companies when they don’t feel comfortable? But, that is a blog post for another time.

If my house and my closet is still the same size, why do I keep all this stuff? I don’t want to take a bedroom and turn it into a closet like what we see on those home makeover shows. Therefore, I needed to re-evaluate my purchasing decisions and be comfortable with less, only choosing what clothing works for my body. Clutter can do us in, whether it is physical or mental. Throwing out items or thoughts that do us harm is satisfying to our mental health.

Striving for perfection is a noble goal, and we should continue as a society to do so in every endeavor. Yet, when we become obsessed with that goal, or that goal harms others, it is time to take a step back from the frenzy, be thankful and satisfied with what we have today. We can choose clothing (or causes) that are worthy of the expense – in both time and money. We can give away so much more, albeit slightly used, to others which will help them along their paths. It is time to strive for a better outcome and getting rid of emotional attachment to all things less important. It is time to step up and say it will be okay if we do the right thing through our thoughts and actions. It is time to give up on old ideas, stop fretting about the small stuff and give it away. When we can commit to positive action, we can be satisfied with our lives (and our belongings). Overall, we are better human beings for always doing the right thing. Welcome to Spring!

CENSORSHIP and BANNED BOOKS

I grew up in a family that read everything they could get their hands on from the bookmobile and the bookstore when there was extra money. We were encouraged to read and think about the things we read. Our parents didn’t always understand our point of view, and sometimes disagreed loudly about it, especially during our teen-aged years, but they allowed us to express our opinions and remind us about making the right choices during our lifetimes.

I also respected and understood the value of my teachers and what they chose to read to us as students from elementary through high school. They were not in favor of censorship, and trust me, I lived in a very conservative environment where they wanted to ban books like The Fountainhead and Catcher in the Rye (mild sexual content compared to today). Many of our teachers and librarians had an understanding about teaching the appropriate age books – right things at the right time.

And yet, today we strive to have “Blissful Ignorance.” Do people understand the concept that the truth will sometimes hurt, and therefore they choose blissful ignorance? Is this really a better choice? Have the parents who are protesting these books even read the books they are opposing? Have the politicians read the entire book that they are opposing? Did their families ever create an open mind in them, one of lifelong learning? Or do they want everyone to just “tow the party line?”

Research has demonstrated repeatedly the negative effects of banning and even censorship of books. According to the American Library Association, they note that for teachers, book banning means shaky, ever-changing curriculum, fear for personal choices, and the tragedy of self-censorship. They also state that for students, book banning means a denial of First Amendment rights, a narrow world view, and psychological deficits. For the classroom, book banning means discourse is hindered.

Why is Freedom of Speech so important for us, especially when it comes to banning books? Censorship can be subtle, almost imperceptible, as well as blatant and overt, but, nonetheless, harmful. John Stuart Mill is famous for his quote regarding liberty of speech and the written word:

“If all mankind minus one, were of one opinion, and only one person were of the contrary opinion, mankind would be no more justified in silencing that one person, than he, if he had the power, would be justified in silencing mankind….But the peculiar evil of silencing the expression of an opinion is, that it is robbing the human race; posterity as well as the existing generation; those who dissent from the opinion, still more than those who hold it. If the opinion is right, they are deprived of the opportunity of exchanging error for truth: if wrong, they lose, what is almost as great a benefit, the clearer perception and livelier impression of truth, produced by its collision with error.”

If you are interested in reading more about censorship, feel free to look up these links to the American Library Association’s website:  https://www.ala.org/advocacy/bbooks/aboutbannedbooks OR https://www.ala.org/advocacy/bbooks/frequentlychallengedbooks

A post in Common Sense media states that people tend to ban books for religious or political reasons: An idea, a scene, or a character in the book offends their religion, sense of morality, or political view. Some people feel they need to protect children from the cursing, morally offensive behavior, or racially insensitive language in a book. They think a book’s content is too violent or too sexual. We all want to protect our children from harm, but how is this helpful? Reading a challenged book is a learning experience and can help your kids define their own values and opinions of its content. Further information on this subject can be found at: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/why-your-kid-should-read-banned-books

Regarding the moral issue, I would like to pose this question:  Do you, as a parent, think you are helping your children by showing up at school libraries, waving dildos in the air and shouting expletives about anal sex? More than likely, it just embarrasses the child and those around him/her and they become scarred for life. I think the better question for these parents and politicians is this:  Why are you so afraid of knowledge of uncomfortable subjects? Why are you so afraid that your child really needs to gather all off the facts about a subject? They are smarter and savvier than you think they are.

We, as adults, have our parents and our grandparents’ voices in our head. We can break the cycle and allow our children to have the tools they will need in life to be free thinkers. We can provide for all the physical and safety needs, but we should let the teachers create the atmosphere where children are free to think and understand the facts and grow up to become rational human beings. They should be free to go with what is logical and sane instead of hosting a slew of ghosts in their heads.

I will never believe in censorship, or fanatical religious beliefs. I do believe that parents have a voice in what they personally teach their very young children at home. However, parents shouldn’t show up in a school and have such ridiculous behavior that it interrupts the education process. When you berate educators, it makes them question why they do what they do for such little pay. Educators want to be there to open the eyes of young children to a world larger than you or even your parents. They want to help. I have only had a few teachers that I felt shouldn’t have gone in the field and didn’t like teaching. However, most of my education process was defined by amazing teachers who worked hard and tried to help us understand the world at a level we could embrace. Each year, each book, builds on the next and as a result, we come out with open minds and a quest for knowledge that drives us to move onto the next level. By analyzing books and breaking them out into micro-bits of information, we create a thought process that allows for informed conclusions that are rational and logical. You can determine whether your child is old enough to hear some of this information when they are younger. However, children are smarter than you think and will eventually figure out that you have prejudices that you will not acknowledge. They will form their own ideas and resent your attempts to smother them.

You as a parent to your child cannot chose to ban books for all other children and teachers in the classroom. Listening to your testimonies at publicized meetings on the nightly news does not encourage me that you have a better understanding of the subjects the teachers are trying to convey to all children. It furthers my belief in your willful ignorance. It makes me wonder how embarrassed your children feel about your actions. Your children want to believe in you, but your actions spur on those who disagree with you into wanting these books to be included in the classrooms regardless of content.

Public Education is for the many, not the few, and you don’t have the right to impose your belief systems on other people or their children who may think differently from you.

Finally, writers please think about what you write and its ensuing effects on the audience. Yes, knowledge of a subject is powerful and what you have lived is important. But is it important to air your views to children at a very vulnerable and early age? Please think about your impact on the world. Sometimes you are hurting others more when you write something explicit. Sometimes it needs to be said to air your anguish and hurt. However, writers can tone down the explicitly sexual and gore content down for the youngest minds. We can get the picture across without the gore. For example, extreme sexual content and gore in horror movies stay in an adult’s brain forever. I can only imagine what it does to children. Think about the impact something intense had on your young mind, and what you felt before you demand they include your book in the curriculum.

I know this is hard concept to grasp, but let’s take a moment to think about our choices.  We cannot change our parents’ way of thinking or what they thought was the right thing to do, but we can change how we approach educating our children. We must rethink our personal bias and indoctrination and listen to what the teacher is trying to accomplish. We can only recommend curriculum for his/her classroom. We cannot as a group decide what is right for every child in their classroom. That is not our job as a parent. Public education is just that: PUBLIC. Our job as parents is to raise our child to the best of our ability, open their eyes to the world, and let them grow up and into their own opinions. They may sometimes disagree with us, and they may sometimes hate us, but they will choose what is the right thing to do if given a choice and we teach them the basics of love and acceptance at home. We must let them grow and form their own opinions as they get older and begin to separate from us. They may not choose our current belief system and path and we as parents must learn to be okay with that. All people must come together for the truth and what is right. We must stop being angry and actively listen to each other and not automatically dismiss someone who isn’t on the same page. It is time to disregard negativity and let children learn in a free world and develop their own opinions and mindsets even if we don’t agree with them. Let’s all grow together. Happy Spring Everyone!